February 12, 2016 | Categories: Dating & Relationships
If you’re looking for love or trying to find new ways to appreciate your partner, consider these invaluable insights from some of the world’s most inspiring thought leaders, past and present.
This Valentine’s Day, and every day, aim to live with more patience, compassion, understanding, and love for your partner and those closest to you. To help keep these practices front-of-mind, we sought guidance from history’s greatest teachers—from poets and philosophers to scientists and spiritual leaders—on love. Heed their advice to open your mind and heart whether it’s to manifest love, better understand your partner, be less critical, or learn how to make love a real priority in every relationship, especially with yourself.
“Women tend to get intimacy differently than men do. Women get intimacy from face-to-face talking. We swivel towards each other, we do what we call the ‘anchoring gaze’ and we talk. This is intimacy to women. I think it comes from millions of years of holding that baby in front of your face, cajoling it, reprimanding it, educating it with words. Men tend to get intimacy from side-by-side doing. As soon as one guy looks up, the other guy will look away. I think it comes from millions of years of standing behind that…sitting behind the bush, looking straight ahead, trying to hit that buffalo on the head with a rock. Love is in us. It’s deeply embedded in the brain. Our challenge is to understand each other.”
—Helen Fisher, anthropologist, TED Talk on “The Brain in Love”
“There are a few things that I’ve come to understand erotic couples do. One, they have a lot of sexual privacy. They understand that there is an erotic space that belongs to each of them. They also understand that foreplay is not something you do five minutes before the real thing. Foreplay pretty much starts at the end of the previous orgasm.”
—Esther Perel, psychotherapist, TED Talk on “The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship”
“Love is the capacity to take care, to protect, to nourish. If you are not capable of generating that kind of energy toward yourself—if you are not capable of taking care of yourself, nourishing yourself, protecting yourself—it is very difficult to take care of another person. In the Buddhist teaching, it’s clear that to love oneself is the foundation of the love of other people. Love is a practice. Love is truly a practice.”
—Thich Nhat Hanh, spiritual leader, poet and peace activist
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